预防
你能做些什么来帮助阻止不当性行为
- 性接触需要双方的肯定同意. 无行为能力的人(例如, a person under the influence of drugs or alcohol) may be incapable of giving consent. Whether an intoxicated person (as a result of using alcohol or other drugs) is incapacitated depends on the extent to which the alcohol or other drugs impact the person’s decision-making capacity, 意识到后果, 以及做出充分知情判断的能力.
- No one deserves to be sexually assaulted, stalked or victimized in any way.
- Don’t engage in any behavior that may be considered Sexual Assault, 家庭暴力, 约会暴力, 跟踪 or any other form of 不正当的性行为 or violence.
- Never use force, coercion, threats, alcohol or other drugs to engage in sexual activity.
- 为你的行为负责.
- 避免酒精和其他药物.
- 记住“不”就是“不”!“stop”的意思是“停止”!”
- Report incidents of violence (including coercion) to law enforcement and campus authorities.
- 讨论不当性行为, 家庭暴力, 约会暴力, and 跟踪 with friends—speak out against non-consensual sex or violence and clear up misconceptions.
- Don’t mistake submission or silence for 肯定同意.
What You Can Do To Help Minimize Your Risk of Becoming a Victim
- 请注意. Does your partner: Threaten to hurt you or your children? Say it’s your fault if he or she hits you and then promises it won’t happen again (but it does)? 当众羞辱你? 在你不想做爱的时候强迫你做爱? 跟随你? 给你发送不想要的信息和礼物?
- 是自信的. 说出来.
- Stay sober and watch out for dates and/or anyone who tries to get you drunk or high.
- Clearly communicate limits to partners, friends, and acquaintances.
- Never leave a party with someone you don’t know well and trust.
- Trust your feelings; if it feels wrong, it probably is.
- 尽你所能学习,并与你的朋友交谈. 帮助他们保持安全.
- Report incidents of violence to law enforcement and campus authorities.
如果你是受害者,你能做些什么
- 尽快去一个安全的地方.
- 保留证据.
- Report the incident to University Police or local law enforcement.
- Report the incident to your campus Title IX Coordinator.
- 致电/访问校园性侵犯受害者倡导者
- Call a 家庭暴力, Sexual Assault or 跟踪 hotline.
- 向朋友或家人求助.
- 要知道你没有错. You did not cause the abuse to occur and you are not responsible for someone else’s violent behavior.
What can I do in order to help reduce my risk of being a victim of 不正当的性行为?
Risk reduction tips can often take a victim-blaming tone, even unintentionally. With no intention to victim-blame and with recognition that only those who commit 不正当的性行为 are responsible for those actions, these suggestions may nevertheless help you to reduce your risk of experiencing a non-consensual sexual act:
- If you have limits, make them known as early as possible.
- 明确而坚定地对性侵犯者说“不”.
- Try to remove yourself from the physical presence of a sexual aggressor.
- 找附近的人寻求帮助.
- Take affirmative responsibility for your alcohol intake/drug use and acknowledge that alcohol/drugs lower your sexual inhibitions and may make you vulnerable to someone who views a drunk or high person as a sexual opportunity.
- Take care of your friends and ask that they take care of you. A real friend will challenge you if you are about to make a mistake. 当他们这样做的时候,尊重他们.
- 如有紧急情况,请拨打911
What can I do in order to help reduce my risk of being an initiator of 不正当的性行为?
If you find yourself in the position of being the initiator of sexual behavior, 你应该在性方面尊重你的潜在伴侣. These suggestions may help you to reduce your risk of being accused of sexual misconduct:
- Clearly communicate your intentions to your sexual partner and give them a chance to clearly relate their intentions to you.
- 理解并尊重个人界限.
- 不要对同意做假设, 关于某人的性能力, 关于他们是否被你吸引, about how far you can go or about whether they are physically and/or mentally able to consent. If there are any questions or ambiguity then you DO NOT have consent.
- Mixed messages from your partner are a clear indication that you should stop, 化解任何性紧张,更好地沟通. 你可能误读了它们. They may not have figured out how far they want to go with you yet. You must respect the timeline for sexual behaviors with which they are comfortable.
- Don’t take advantage of someone’s drunkenness or drugged state, even if they did it to themselves. 使无能力 means a person is unable to give valid consent.
- Realize that your potential partner could be intimidated by you, or fearful. You may have a power advantage simply because of your gender or size. 不要滥用这种权力.
- Understand that consent to some form of sexual behavior does not automatically imply consent to any other forms of sexual behavior.
- Silence and passivity cannot be interpreted as an indication of consent. 仔细阅读你的潜在伴侣, paying attention to verbal and non-verbal communication and body language.